I have a secret. I hope you’re ready. I’m a…feminist.
Yeah I know. Not much of a secret. Especially if you follow me on any form of social media. It’s fairly obvious.
I used to be scared of the word. It was so scary to me. When I was younger, I though it sounded too aggressive. I was all for “girl power” and whatnot. But in a nicer way. Why do feminists have to be so loud??
Oh, dumb, sweet, young Jen. Sometimes I really want to smack younger me.
I never realized all the issues feminists fight for. The Google tells me feminism is the “advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.” Which it is. But, for me, a big part of this is calling people out for their sexist bullshit. Because there is a lot out there. Currently making me rageful: victim blaming and telling women to smile. Especially presidential candidates. So unnecessary and a real dick move.
Feminism, for me, is also about protecting my girls form the assholes in society. Or at least equipping them to defend themselves.
Lately we have been talking about how there are no “girl toys” or “boy toys.” Kids can play with what they like. Avery loves dinosaurs and butterflies. Callie like building things. And dinosaurs. Because Avery loves them.
I want to teach them that there are no “boy colors” or “girl colors.” And it’s okay that Callie’s favorite color is blue and not pink. She’s still a girl.
I don’t want my daughters being shamed for their interests. Like the time a woman called Avery “odd” for wanting a dinosaur toy at a garage sale. And it took EVERYTHING I had not to punch her in the face.
I want them to see me doing things for myself. That I can squash bugs. I can play catch with them. I can assemble Ikea furniture. Most of it, anyway.
I also want them to know they can love the stereotypical girl things too! Avery’s obsessed with princesses and loves Tinkerbell. She wants to wear dresses everyday and have long hair like Rapunzel.
Love what you love and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it!
Thank you girls for awaking my feminist side. I’m gong to fight for women’s rights and equality so you [hopefully] won’t have to.
Go here to read another post I wrote about a different “F-word.”